Comments on: Why you shouldn’t be a second wife,,,

By: Glenda Larke

Glenda Larke — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 19:29:00 +0000

Absolutely, Eliza. Had I been writing a post entitled “Why a Man Shouldn’t Take More than one Wife” then I would have asked: why does he think he is such an angel that he can fulfil the stringent rules that should apply to such marriages? No man short of saint can be that good…

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 17:52:00 +0000

Hi Glenda, all reasons worthy of consideration. For some women though, it’s a matter of economic necessity. Then there are others who are blinded by love. And of course, those who wish to marry into money. The issue is that it’s become socially acceptable, and the conditions that allow polygamy in religion are all but ignored.

By: Glenda Larke

Glenda Larke — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 06:39:00 +0000

Yes, you are doubtless right, Dave. I was really only talking about what I know – and one shouldn’t even extrapolate it to other Muslim societies. They are all different, and each is heavily influenced by their own local or tribal cultures. Often they will even say some custom is Islamic – but other Muslims from other countries will just scratch their heads and not know what they are talking about.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 03:05:00 +0000

I just wanted to add what I think is a necessary caveat – Western polyamorists, people from other polygamous cultures, etc all would probably disagree with some of the statements here if taken out of context and applied to them. I certainly would. Marriage in other societies doesn’t work the same was as it does for Malaysian Muslims.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Fri, 06 Apr 2007 08:07:00 +0000

well said, glenda

By: Lone Grey Squirrel

Lone Grey Squirrel — Fri, 06 Apr 2007 05:27:00 +0000

Strange thing to be writing about in the middle of Imbak!! Such subversive writing will mean bloggers will have to be registered with the Government (major current news item in case you have no access to news). lol :)

Seriously though, very good advice. Hope it is heeded. I visit your blog all the time and enjoy your photos and stories

By: Lydia Teh

Lydia Teh — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 21:35:00 +0000

Glenda, Dina Zaman is calling for submissions for I am Muslim 2. I think this piece will fit in quite nicely in this collection. If you're interested, check out her blog at :

dina-zaman.blogspot.com (31/3 entry)

By: Susan Johnston Hamrick

Susan Johnston Hamrick — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 19:44:00 +0000

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By: BETO

BETO — Thu, 05 Apr 2007 18:43:00 +0000

I totally agree with you! except for #5

I also think that the pressure to get married in the eastern society is very very big.

My reason for #5, let's say the society said that you have to have a Mercedez bens to be happy. And to me that's the most absurd thing. But, for some people it makes them happy. Although, I still think it's shallow and totally mind boggling to even think...but it's still a matter of one's opinion.

Well thats just my bit.